when you're in a new relationship
everything is...nice.sweet.beautiful.
some might even say perfect.
everything felt right.
even when the other person tried to change who you are.
you would say to yourself
"give and take.that's what relationship is all about"
2 years after that, you'd say to yourself
"why am i doing all the giving?"
"why am i doing all the changes?"
"what about him?(or her?)"
and then you guys broke up.
and you're back to proudly being your old self.
trying desperately to show that you're having the time of your life.
being single and enjoying it.
you'd be chanting
"i'm single and i'm ready to mingle" to every single person you meet.
sure.that's the right thing to do.
when that other person was a jerk to you.
but what if the changes that you made.for that other person.
is actually good for you.
you become a better person because of it.
should you go back to being your old self?
just for the sake of protecting your ego?
just to show your ex that you're more than happy that you guys ended the relationship?
yes.you may adjust your life to being your single self
but why change all the good things?
payback?
do you really think that your ex will feel anything you want him/her to feel?
no.not really.
he/she would say
"phewwhh..bullet dodged."
"im better off."
"good riddance.definitely"
not all the changes that we made for our ex is a bad thing
sometimes, if we really think about it
we'll find that they actually really cared about us
that all the changes we made are really for our own benefits
you might even feel the urge to thank your ex
but don't.
because then you'll be stroking his/her ego
we wouldn't want that now do we?
:p
everything is...nice.sweet.beautiful.
some might even say perfect.
everything felt right.
even when the other person tried to change who you are.
you would say to yourself
"give and take.that's what relationship is all about"
2 years after that, you'd say to yourself
"why am i doing all the giving?"
"why am i doing all the changes?"
"what about him?(or her?)"
and then you guys broke up.
and you're back to proudly being your old self.
trying desperately to show that you're having the time of your life.
being single and enjoying it.
you'd be chanting
"i'm single and i'm ready to mingle" to every single person you meet.
sure.that's the right thing to do.
when that other person was a jerk to you.
but what if the changes that you made.for that other person.
is actually good for you.
you become a better person because of it.
should you go back to being your old self?
just for the sake of protecting your ego?
just to show your ex that you're more than happy that you guys ended the relationship?
yes.you may adjust your life to being your single self
but why change all the good things?
payback?
do you really think that your ex will feel anything you want him/her to feel?
no.not really.
he/she would say
"phewwhh..bullet dodged."
"im better off."
"good riddance.definitely"
not all the changes that we made for our ex is a bad thing
sometimes, if we really think about it
we'll find that they actually really cared about us
that all the changes we made are really for our own benefits
you might even feel the urge to thank your ex
but don't.
because then you'll be stroking his/her ego
we wouldn't want that now do we?
:p
